Sleep Tight

Frederic Leighton

My recent post, The Fine Art of Self Soothing, was written primarily with children in mind.  Adults too, struggle through their continuum with rest and especially sleep issues.  This one is for you.

What causes insomnia, wakefulness long past lights-out, broken/interrupted sleep?  Even for those who claim they are great sleepers, there is usually a period of time in life when sleep patterns are not solid.  It could be when raising children and all those middle of the night feedings. It could be middle-age, the changing hormones wreak havoc on your circadian cycle, and we become sensitive to substances and habits that never kept us awake before.  It could be old age when hormones, a sedentary life style, frequent day napping, bladder control problems lead to a brief and unsatisfying night rest.  It could be the general tensions and anxiety of living in the 21^st century. How can we get better rest, some reliable peace at night?

The concept of ritual which I discussed in the Self-Soothing post applies as much to adults as it does to children.  Most of us were raised on some type of night ritual to help us sleep.  As we age and go through different developmental cycles, many of the tried and true ways we took for granted growing up fall to the wayside and are not replaced.  Repetitive patterning (rituals essentially) cue the body to prepare for whatever the patterning was initially instituted for.  Creating new patterns for the life I find myself in now will help the repose I long for.

Creating bedtime rituals is committing to spending time before bed preparing for sleep.  Many sleep problems are born because an hour is spent watching the news or stimulating talk shows on our electromagnetic charged devices before we expect to sleep.  Or, we fall into bed after a long day expecting sleep to take us over without any preparation.  We have to set the stage, create the conditions for sleep. This takes some thought and intention.

Look at your surroundings:  your bed, what you face from your bed.  Is it serene, pleasing to your senses?  If not, make it so.  Your bed is your haven, it should be extremely comforting and comfortable; the linens and bedding especially restful to your senses.  Get rid of unnecessary clutter, open up your dream space.  Clutter is more stimulation; you want simple (austere?), clean, restful impressions. Make your bed everyday if you don’t already.  Be slow and deliberate about how you spread and smooth the linens.  When you see it next (at bedtime) you want it to sing lullabies (figuratively speaking) and be consummately inviting.  Your bed clothes should reflect this as well and be treated special and put in a special place.  Before turning in at night, consider spritzing the linens, bed clothes circumference around your bed with sleep essential oils (Lavandin, Bergamot, Sweet Marjoram, rose Otto—whatever is pleasing).  The repetitive use of these oils will become familiar and cue the body it is time to sleep. Try a diffuser of your favorite essential oils at night.

Pre-bed rituals like night hygiene, bathing, rubbing oils into your feet and neck are other repetitive patterns to help the body to sleep. Be deliberate in your bathing.  Feel the skin you touch, be slow and loving drying yourself off (that's your leg you are toweling, it brings you everywhere you want to go without fail).  Once on a retreat, the woman sleeping in the bunk next to me spent 20 minutes a night with lotion massaging her feet, touching and just putting them to bed. (I asked her after seeing her do this for 3 nights if her feet hurt and she said no, this is what she did nightly to prepare for bed).  Laying in bed and running your hands down your limbs and body, pausing when necessary at the achy parts, sending some loving energy that way is a great way to say good night to yourself.  There is something very affirming about your own loving, caring self touch that calms and establishes acceptance and peace to your own energy field.

Reading some poetry, listening to Mozart or Bach for a time before sleep is helpful.  Try this over a specific time period and then put it away; try not to fall asleep reading or listening to music (it can be a reason one wakes up in the night; cycling tracks of music or a burning light from reading).  Sensitizing oneself to one’s breathing patterns and paying attention to it repetitively can sometimes stop a busy mind.  Guided Imagery, allowing the bones and flesh of the body to sink into the safe-haven of the bed is restful.  I teach a “10:10” exercise that involves breathing in to the count of 4 and exhaling to the count of 6.  Establish this breathing rhythm and after you have done it 5 or 6 times breathe in one impression you are grateful for in the day that has just ended.  Breathe with that 5 times in the breathing rhythm established.  This is one cycle or pattern. Repeat the pattern 9 more times, a new day’s gratitude for each cycle.  You will be lucky to get to the fifth cycle, it is very relaxing.  Not only is the breathing rhythm soliciting the relaxation response, but the series of gratitudes also support the parasympathetic nervous system in its quest for repose.

The main point about any of these practices is establishing a repetitive ritual.  Do a few of them for several nights; try a few others.  You will have your favorites.  Taking the time to establish soothing patterning will reap many rewards.  Your waking will be a peaceful waking because you’ve instilled this in your thinking, feeling and physiology pre-sleep.  This sends well being messages to your central nervous system and saturates your nerves.  You will benefit from this in the morning.

Birds Appearing in a Dream  One had feathers like a blood-streaked koi, another a tail of color-coded wires. One was a blackbird stretching orchid wings, another a flicker with a wounded head. All flew like leaves fluttering to escape, bright, circulating in burning air, and all returned when the air cleared. One was a kingfisher trapped in its bower, deep in the ground, miles from water. Everything is real and everything isn’t. Some had names and some didn’t. Named and nameless shapes of birds, at night my hand can touch your feathers and then I wipe the vernix from your wings, you who have made bright things from shadows, you who have crossed the distances to roost in me.

-- by Michael Collier
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The Quan Yin of essential oils: Lavender

Quan Yin is a “saint” for both Taoists and Buddhists alike (how many entities do we know that cross the great religion divide?).  She is known for her deeply empathic declaration, refusing to become immortal until all suffering in the world was alleviated, but would live on showing mercy to all.  And she does.  In China she is evident in the softness of the mountains, and the very air and earth.  Quan Yin is the quintessential icon for care and mercy.  Likewise, True Lavender’s (angustifolia Lavandula) essential chemical properties and capacity reflects a type of medicinal mercy.

There are a few other essential oils (eo) I would give a quality label like “mercy” to: Frankincense, Neroli, Angelica Immortelle to name a few.  But True Lavender… well Lavender is a kind of standout.  She is such a diverse and hardworking eo, addressing so many maladies.  She is a wound healer, an infection stopper, a histamine blocker.  She refreshes spirit and fills those flagging neurotransmitters in the brain obliterating migraines and tendencies toward depression.  She promotes relaxation, rest and sleep for the weary.  And she is generous, willing to work in concert with western medicine’s opioids to decrease pain. 

True Lavender is a pretty ordinary species, easy to grow and a well known botanical oil in Europe and the Americas.  Despite her lack of exotic allure, it can be said she is trustworthy, accountable, gentle and sublime.  In my years of practicing clinical aromatherapy, and using Lavender on probably thousands of people, I have never seen an allergy to this eo (or heard of one in my studies).  It is easily my first go-to oil in myriads of situations, alone or in combination.  When used with other oils, she doesn’t fight or overstate her delicate power.  She is pure cooperation and a team player.

It would seem more natural to pair Quan Yin with an Asian eo like Ylang Ylang rather than the very western angustifolia Lavandula.  As lovely as Ylang Ylang is, its power is not gentle nor subtle.  True Lavender like Quan Yin is the essence of femininity, and although not an Asian botanical, somehow creates a harmonious relationship with her parallel entity which calls from half way around the world.  This is not surprising as both of their abilities and purpose is about extending themselves, hero(ine)ically.